How does one do that? Many people dealing with infertility will tell you that they feel as if their life is on hold. Whether or not you take that vacation, attend an event, or travel you are always thinking where am I at in my cycle and what will that mean for us.

We’re going to the lake this weekend with my husband’s family, a three day event. And all the while we wonder if we can pull it off. We ask ourselves will we have the privacy we need for the shots? Will OHSS creep in (I overstimmed again this cycle)? Will people ask questions about why we aren’t drinking? It’s hard to “act” pregnant without really being pregnant and then have to explain it to others.

This thing, infertility, impacts all of our decisions. We held off buying tickets to Spain until we “knew” we wouldn’t be too far along, as we kept hoping each cycle would be it. We are looking to buy a home but are having to factor in what if IUI doesn’t work and we have to pay the 25K for IVF. And the list goes on.

I suspect someday we’ll look back at this and realize that we were fortunate to experience infertility. And while that sounds crazy I hope that we can educate people, and use our political activisim to make a difference or at the very least I know there have been two women that I have personally helped by making sure they knew they had options. If we never experienced infertility I might have had the attitude, yeah that’s sad, but then not really look into what this means for couples and how widespread it is.

I do not wish infertility on anyone but I do hope that anyone facing doesn’t get stuck and lose hope.